The 1960s were all about the magic of the mind. We were fascinated by the subconscious and its hidden powers.
The Amazing Kreskin really did amaze us. When I was in sixth grade, Dad bought me this Kreskin’s ESP game/kit. The pendulum I always felt was hokey, but spent a lot of time with the cards.
Each had a color dot, or unique symbol, and we were supposed to discern (not guess) which color or symbol it was. Of course, I never mastered the thing, but it did awaken in me a curiosity about larger things.
In 1966, a cosmetic surgeon named Maxwell Maltz authored a book titled “Psycho-Cybernetics”. I remember seeing it around the house a lot. Also, Dad would do things, experimentally, to teach me.
Once, on a cool autumn evening, I was playing with friends and decided that I wanted to go into the house. As I came in the door, Dad was seated on the couch in the living room, to my right.
“Why did you come in?”, he asked.
“I dont know”, I replied, “Just felt like it.
He smiled and said,”I made you come in.”
He’d been experimenting with some of Maltz’s techniques, visualizing me coming through the door, and I did. Does that prove that Dad’s experiment worked? Of course not, but it was enough to pique my interest.
At 61, I still cant tell you what color underwear you’re wearing, or the name on the label, but I am very aware of an interpersonal connection that goes beyond the visual.
What brings me to this, today, is Maltz’s emphasis on Self-image. If there is one thing that I swear by, from all of those things, it’s that we can change our lives by changing the self-image.
In general, people who see themselves negatively, will have a more negative living experience than people with a positive self-image.
The last three years of my life are a testament to this. In 2015, I was in the darkest place of my life. Beaten down by circumstances, I’d taken on a victim mentality and felt absolutely like a waste of skin.
In 2016, I realized what was happening, and began to change that image. Since then, life has been a continuous chain of improving circumstances.
That isnt to say that nothing negative has happened. My car/home was stolen, and more, but it has all brought me further along a growth curve.
Today, I’m speaking to groups and leading mindfulness workshops. For a lot of this, I credit my dad, introducing me to the things I needed to know.
If you’re interested in learning more, you can read Dr. Maltz’s book, Psycho-Cybernetics. Of course, you can also contact me, and we can talk about ways that I might be able to help.